After the age of 40, a woman must leave 3 "retreats" for herself, which have nothing to do with money

 Wu Zhe said in "Wolf Walks in Pairs" that once a person has a retreat, whether it is a retreat that you are willing or unwilling to accept, you will not use all your strength.

As a woman, I am often inspired by this kind of words, and I have overcome difficulties all the way in life, and lived the first half of my life with hard work and no resentment.

Buffett's wife once said that women are the slaves of the world, but most women don't realize that many women's efforts are to run the world for men.

It is also very helpless to be born a woman. When you are young, you are bound by marriage and childbirth. In middle age, you are bound by children and families. Your success is your own success in life.

In fact, this is not the case. Someone once said that "the most important label in life is your own name."

As a woman, in addition to being someone's wife and someone's mother, what you should be most should be yourself, and your name should be your loudest label.

Therefore, when a woman passes the age of forty, she must leave herself 3 retreats, which have nothing to do with money, but only about becoming the best version of herself.

After forty years old, love aside

Eileen Chang said, I thought love could fill the regrets of life. However, it is love that creates more regrets.

Some people only fill their lives with emotions. Her joys, sorrows, joys, struggles and depravity are all caused by love and hatred. This kind of life is very pure, but it is also thin. It is not that life is thin, but that the object of life is too changeable.

From Sima Xiangru's "Phoenix Seeking the Phoenix" "There is a beautiful woman, and I will never forget it. If I don't see her for a day, I will think about it like crazy", a man's fiery confession of love for a woman at the beginning.

In Zhuo Wenjun's "Baitou Yin", "I heard that you have two intentions, so you come to break up with each other. I hope to have a person with one heart and never leave each other." After the love faded, the man changed his heart confidently.

Feelings are more like an excuse and pretext, love or not love are reasons.

Everyone longs for love, but love is the most difficult thing to grasp. When you love you, you will be regarded as a god, and when you don't love you, you will be abandoned like a shoe.

What can a woman do in the face of a man who changes his mind?

Zhuo Wenjun relied on his literary talents to arouse Sima Xiangru's love between husband and wife, guilt, and saved a marriage that was on the verge of being broken.

Do ordinary women have the same talent as Zhuo Wenjun? Even if you have the same talent as her, can you meet a man with a basic moral bottom line like Sima Xiangru? Did your redemption bring the prodigal son back or treat you with more disdain?

These are factors that cannot be controlled, and only you can control them.

As a woman, it is enough to be stupid once when you are young. You cannot fall into the same river twice, and you cannot make the same mistake twice.

Zhou Guoping once wrote in "The Distance of Watching": The density of life is more worth pursuing than the length of life.

Forty is the new twenty, women should start living for themselves at forty, put love aside, inject new elements into their lives, such as career, dreams, friends, reading, even being alone, As long as you take your focus away from the family or men and children, you will start to have a different perspective in life, which is a new beginning of your life.

A 40-year-old woman becomes her own destination

Wang Wang, Li Jiaqi's assistant anchor, was rejected by everyone at the beginning and was called "Aunt". Now she is proficient in picking up and throwing out memes, and has won many live broadcast benefits for the majority of female netizens. She is called "My Internet" Mouth substitute".

Li Jiaqi once said that she often used all means to come to work in our company, tried all means to sit next to me, and then did not leave.

Wangwang once said that she used to like Zhang Yixing, so she did Extreme Challenge, and now she likes Li Jiaqi, so she became Li Jiaqi's assistant anchor.

From being accepted to being deeply recognized, Wangwang's method is to insist on taking the initiative and work hard.

Some people take their dreams as a mantra, while others turn their dreams into reality.

As a woman, when you reach the age of forty, you will understand that the destination of a woman is not parents, not marriage, and only you are your own way out.

Divorced women will know that if you don't have real estate, you don't even have a place to move your hukou, so for women, only your own ability is your confidence, and economic independence can lead to a strong soul.

Many women also make a mistake, that is, they like to improve their knowledge, rather than actually improve their ability to make money.

Because you can improve your knowledge very quickly, reading a book, reading an article, or watching a video, you seem to have acquired a certain kind of knowledge, and your own consciousness seems to suddenly open up. This kind of knowledge will make you feel like you have learned it. A great sense of achievement.

But this kind of knowledge is not enough to help you change the status quo.

Improving one's earning ability requires a long period of accumulation, continuous running-in in actual work, and continuous research by oneself, and these actually require a lot of time and experience, which is why the 28th rule is always The reason for using it in most occasions is because people always want to be lazy, and there are always a few people who can persevere and work hard.

After forty years old, be more patient with yourself

At the age of forty, we often fall into a sense of anxiety, or the invisible pressure of age, or the hopelessness of an increasingly stable life.

We are often eager to make some changes, eager for quick success to change the status quo, and end up with nothing in the end.

In many cases, the midlife crisis is slowly accumulated. There is a clichéd saying that the playfulness of the 20-year-old leads to the helplessness of the 30-year-old, and the helplessness of the 30-year-old leads to the inaction of the 40-year-old.

The results of each stage contain the reasons in the previous life, so there is no need to complain, changing from now on is the best choice at the moment.

At the age of 40, you might as well open your mind, hold the attitude of "life is already like this, if it doesn't change, it's just like this, change will never be worse than it is now", and do what you should do step by step.

Be quiet and be careful, persevere, and let everything happen naturally. The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, and the second is now.

At the age of forty, you must understand that life is not a movie. Most of the time, life is ordinary and not so vigorous. We must learn to accept the ordinary beauty gladly, give ourselves more patience, and embrace the future life with a better attitude. Even if you don't succeed, it's good to be honest.